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Tell Me What You Want- The Words Most Couples Never Quite Find
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Tell Me What You Want- The Words Most Couples Never Quite Find
£12.00
Sale price
£12.00
Regular price
For the sentence you haven't said yet.
Tell Me What You Want is a guide for couples who've grown brilliant at managing a household together and considerably less practised at saying the things that actually matter. It's for the want that's been sitting quietly for months, the request that keeps turning into a complaint by accident, and the fear that asking might change something between you, even for the better.
This is an educational communication workbook, not therapy and not counselling. It won't diagnose anything or promise a particular outcome. What it offers instead is something more useful for most couples: real, usable language for the conversations you've been putting off, and a clearer understanding of why asking feels so much harder than it should.
- Nine chapters plus a closing reflection, moving from why asking feels risky, through the difference between a request and a complaint, to hearing a no without it undoing you and giving one without closing the door
- Real conversation scripts and worked examples throughout, built to adapt into your own words rather than recite
- A dedicated chapter on introducing something new to your relationship gently, in stages, without an ambush
- A chapter on repair- what to do when a conversation goes sideways, because it sometimes will
- Twenty starter scripts in the appendix, organised by category, short enough to screenshot and use tonight
- Reflection, journalling, and conversation prompts in every chapter
Couples aged 25–50 in the UK who:
- Feel emotionally close but still struggle to say what they actually want, especially around intimacy
- Keep noticing their requests come out sounding more like complaints than they meant
- Want practical language for hard conversations, not vague encouragement to "communicate better"
- Have read 21 Days of Reconnection and are looking for the next step — or are picking up this series for the first time
Set aside dedicated time together, work through each section at your own pace, and use the guided prompts to facilitate open, honest conversations. Best experienced in a comfortable, distraction-free environment.
This is an educational workbook, not therapy or medical treatment. It does not diagnose or treat any condition, and it isn't a replacement for professional support. If you're dealing with ongoing pain, unresolved trauma, or relationship difficulty beyond what a workbook can address, we recommend speaking with a GP, Relate, or a COSRT-accredited relationship therapist - details are included in the book itself.
What’s Inside
A digital communication workbook for couples who struggle to say what they actually want.
Usable Language, Finally
Real, specific words for the conversations you've been circling for months- not scripts, but a way in.
Why Asking Feels So Hard
A clearer understanding of what makes asking feel risky and what changes when you see it differently.
For Couples Who Communicate Well Mostly
Designed for the couple who handles everything together but still leaves certain things unsaid.
Educational, Not Therapeutic
A communication workbook, not counselling, not diagnosis. Just something more useful for most couples.
The Want That's Been Sitting Quietly
Most couples get brilliant at managing life together and considerably less practised at saying the things that actually matter. This guide is for the request that keeps turning into a complaint by accident and the fear that asking might change something, even for the better.
The Conversations Worth Having
Tell Me What You Want won't promise a particular outcome. It offers something better- a way to start saying the things you've been meaning to say.
This is for you if…
This is for you if…
- You know what you want but can't quite find the words — or the right moment
- Your requests keep coming out wrong, too sharp, too vague, or not at all
- You want to feel more understood without turning every conversation into a negotiation
- You've been waiting for the other person to ask — and they've been waiting for you. You want a guide that's honest and readable, not a workbook full of exercises to complete
This is not for you if…
- You're looking for therapy or medical treatment
- You're dealing with ongoing pain, unresolved trauma, or relationship difficulty beyond what a workbook can address
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Frequently Asked Questions
Tell Me What You Want is a digital communication workbook for couples. It's designed to help you find the words for the things you've been meaning to say — the wants, needs, and requests that keep getting lost or coming out wrong.
No. This is an educational guide, not a therapeutic service. It won't diagnose anything or replace professional support. What it offers is practical language and a clearer understanding of why asking feels so much harder than it should.
Not necessarily. Many couples find it useful to read it individually first, then come to conversations with more clarity. There's no single right way to use it.
It's designed to be read at your own pace — not rushed through in one sitting. Most couples return to sections over several weeks as conversations arise.
After Dark is a digital download. You'll receive instant access to the guide after purchase.
What couples are saying
This guide changed how we talk to each other. We feel closer than we have in years.
— Sarah & James
Finally, a resource that feels thoughtful and real — not clinical or awkward.
— Priya & Rohan
We worked through the workbook together over a month. It was one of the best things we've done as a couple.
— Mia & Lucas