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The Slow Undress- Why Taking Your Time Changes Everything
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The Slow Undress- Why Taking Your Time Changes Everything
£16.00
Sale price
£16.00
Regular price
For the evenings you'd actually like to linger in.
The Slow Undress is a guide about time, and what changes when two people deliberately give more of it to each other. It's for couples who've noticed that everything in modern life moves quickly, and that the habit crept into the bedroom too, without either of them choosing it.
This is an educational guide, not therapy or treatment. It doesn't diagnose anything and makes no promises about outcomes. What it offers is something more useful for most couples: a way of thinking about pacing, attention and anticipation, grounded in real research on arousal and desire, written in a voice that's warm rather than clinical.
Instant digital download (PDF), seven chapters plus a twelve-idea appendix. Read on any device, or print at home.
The Slow Undress is Book Four in The Intimacy Academy series- for couples ready to stop rushing the parts of the day that were never meant to be rushed.
- 21 days, structured into three weeks- gentle touch, whole-body awareness, and mutual connection, each building on the last
- Nine to ten guided sessions, roughly 15 minutes each, with rest and reflection days built in between
- Daily journal prompts to help you notice what's changing, without needing to force it
- The Couple Agreement- a printable page to sign together before you begin
- A Monthly Reconnection Plan and Six-Month Review, so the habits outlast the book itself
- Couples aged 25–55 in the UK who:
- Feel emotionally or physically distant after years together
- Want to rebuild intimacy without an awkward conversation about where to start
- Are looking for a relationship workbook they can work through privately, at home, at their own pace
- Have tried talking about it and want a structure actually to follow through
Set aside dedicated time together, work through each section at your own pace, and use the guided prompts to facilitate open, honest conversations. Best experienced in a comfortable, distraction-free environment.
This is an educational workbook, not therapy or medical treatment. It does not diagnose or treat any condition, and it isn't a replacement for professional support. If you're dealing with ongoing pain, unresolved trauma, or relationship difficulty beyond what a workbook can address, we recommend speaking with a GP, Relate, or a COSRT-accredited relationship therapist - details are included in the book itself.
What's Inside
Everything you need to deepen your connection
Understanding Connection
Learn the foundations of emotional intimacy and how to build deeper bonds.
Communication Tools
Practical exercises to improve how you express needs and listen actively.
Conflict Resolution
Navigate disagreements with compassion and find solutions together.
Intimacy Practices
Guided activities to nurture physical and emotional closeness.
Self-Reflection Prompts
Journal exercises to explore your own patterns and desires.
Action Plans
Step-by-step guides to implement what you've learned in daily life.
This is for you if…
- You feel emotionally or physically distant after years together
- You want to rebuild intimacy without an awkward conversation about where to start
- You're looking for a relationship workbook to work through privately, at home, at your own pace
- You've tried talking about it and want a structure to actually follow through
This is not for you if…
- You're looking for therapy or medical treatment
- You're dealing with ongoing pain, unresolved trauma, or relationship difficulty beyond what a workbook can address
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Frequently Asked Questions
No. After Dark isn't a rigid programme or a course to complete. There's no calendar, no exercises to tick off — just ideas, rituals, and small shifts you can bring into the evenings you're already having, at your own pace.
No. After Dark is an educational guide — warmer and looser than a workbook, closer to a book you'd read slowly over several weeks. It's not therapy, and it doesn't replace it.
It's for couples who feel like the day gets all their energy and the evening gets whatever's left — the ones losing that quiet hour between dinner and sleep to separate screens and separate silences.
It's designed to be read slowly, over several weeks. There's no set timeline — you move through it at whatever pace suits you both.
After Dark is a digital download. You'll receive instant access to the guide after purchase.
What couples are saying
This guide changed how we talk to each other. We feel closer than we have in years.
— Sarah & James
Finally, a resource that feels thoughtful and real — not clinical or awkward.
— Priya & Rohan
We worked through the workbook together over a month. It was one of the best things we've done as a couple.
— Mia & Lucas